2-minute chores versus housework

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The housework is a forever chore. It’s constant upkeep. Without it, the place slowly starts to look and smell like a boy’s dormitory. Never wanting to reexperience the aftertaste of a room full of stale farts, bad breath and foot odour.

Some days these daily tasks are a mind-numbing blessing. That familiarity of tidying the kitchen up after dinner. Other days the dishes get thrashed around the sink, taking our mood out on the cutlery feeling better than a therapy session. Then there’s that blank stare; in a world of your own folding clothes with a heavy heart.

These tasks allow us to shake off tension and loosen up.

Then there are the times when chores feel like resentment topped with a bitter aftertaste. They are the furthest thing we want to do. Tired and drained from a full day, becoming the referee for children who won’t be quiet until bedtime. And there are still several hours of routine before the mind will allow you to splatter on the couch and stare.

Doing a task over and over has its benefits. Although it does cross your mind that other people in the house could contribute more.

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Why it’s important to make ‘I don’t know’ a call to action for life

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What comes to mind when you hear ‘I don’t know’? It can momentarily stop us in our tracks wondering how to move forward. More information is required.

Should we feel comforted by an individual who says ‘I don’t know’? It could have been worse. You may have received the answer, made a decision, acted upon it and found it was wrong.

We’re more careful and deliberate once it’s realised there is a price to pay for delivering inaccurate information. This is why it’s important to make ‘I don’t know’ a call to action for life.

Bad habits

Don’t get into the habit of stopping at ‘I don’t know’. It means go and find out. Go in search of!

If you can’t locate up-to-date information, which in this day and age is highly unusual; reach out to a person you rely on for correct details.

‘I don’t know’ doesn’t exempt you from further follow-up.

Make it a life commitment to locate current information before sharing.
Be proud to have your name attached to the facts being supplied.

Customer service

The service industry is where people rely on others to perform duties. It’s also where lots of questions are asked and answered. It’s okay not to have immediate solutions on hand.

A customer asks you a question. There are many ways to answer.

I don’t know
I think it could be …
Oh, I don’t know. If you give me a couple of minutes I will go and find the answer.
I am not sure; do you mind having a look around while search for the answer?
I think it could be this but let me go and cross check to make sure I am giving you the right answer.
At ……. we pride ourselves on sharing accurate information. I have an idea but give me a moment so I can check to ensure I pass on the right information.

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Walking The Path Requires Discipline To Turn Dreams Into Reality.

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The path paved with good intentions is nothing without the actions. The journey of life will provide you with: –

bends in the road (new opportunities),
sharp turns (unexpected changes),
hills (life’s upheavals) and
bridges (fear).

You notice along the way there are many side streets. Some appear interesting and even tempting.

As humans, we often stray from the path, finding other areas of our life that we want stimulated.

Sometimes we’re looking to escape or find an easier way of doing things.

We discover after a while these alleys are nothing more than distractions. Some emotionally and others financially costly.

These are our life experiences. Once we feel the sting of the lesson; we are righted for a time and head back on the path.

Are you a detours kind of person? Seeing the path directly in front of you. Yet some of those side streets light up like Time Square on New Year’s Eve. It’s easy to be lured down these avenues.

You go down enough of these streets to recognise there are no short cuts in life and diversions create chaos.

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Positive and Negative Reinforcement Create Patterned Behaviour.

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Have you ever met someone who tells a story, yet you feel they are not sharing the truth? It makes you feel a little cheated. Disappointed in them. If they’ve fibbed once you may wonder how many others times they’ve done the same thing. Lying is a learned patterned behaviour.

It differs from those who embellish their version of events. Wanting to spice up their tales keeping it interesting for the audience.

A perpetual liar requires the memory of an elephant. Having to remain alert at all times. Constantly watching what is flowing from their mouth.

One lie leads to another. If they don’t remain on top of it, they will be found out. Losing all creditability.

The process of patterned behaviour.

Say for instance, a parent is in the habit of bullying their child. The young person had to think on their toes otherwise they would be unfairly punished.

After a while the child masters the skill of lying. Sneaky and sly are a part of their forte. Becoming an expert at telling people what they want to hear.

It’s not a natural instinct. It became a part of a survival process the child had to inhabit to get around a powerful adult.

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How Do You Respond To Challenging Behaviour?

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We are surrounded by different personality types. Some individuals we enjoy, while others we struggle to keep our emotions in check. They seem to bring the worst out in us. How do you respond to challenging behaviour?

“If you can cultivate the right attitude, your enemies are your best spiritual teachers because their presence provides you with the opportunity to enhance and develop tolerance, patience and understanding.” Dalai Lama

A married couple reached out to a counsellor seeking guidance. Their union had been strained for some time and they were seeking solutions. The husband says, “if only my wife would change our lives would be better”. The wife says, “our lives would be happier if only my husband changed”.

It’s an unrealistic expectation to demand that others alter their behaviour in order to suit our requirements. Most people aren’t mind readers so it is near impossible for this to occur. We maintain our equilibrium when we accept individuals for who they are, not how we expect them to be.

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