Are You the Reason Your Relationship is Over?

Kissing Couple - RelationshipDoes the heart weigh more when we are in love?  It feels so full of happiness that we think it may explode.  Radiating like a neon light. When our relationships are going well they have the power to lift us up, give us a leap in our walk, the sky seems bluer and life a mystical magical journey.

However, other times our relationships seem like nothing more than hard-work and we would rather criticise, abuse or avoid the other person rather than address the core issues.

The committed relationship.

Believe it or no; you struck a deal with your partner when you committed to each other.  Back in the day when verbal agreements and a hand shake were as good as signing your name to a contract, the deal was sealed.

When both parties make this promise; they offer to share their most valuable assets: – their heart and mind.  You have decided to become partners in crime.  Sharing these cherished yet vulnerable commodities is not only saying, ‘I love you’, but ‘I trust you with everything I have’.

A union of this magnitude has the power to make you rise above the trivial and make you see the world in a rainbow of colors.  It’s a big responsibility and one that should not be taken lightly, ever!

Because this joint venture also has the power to mentally reduce you to nothing, finding it hard to breath and fight another day.  You try to remember when this relationship started to become difficult, doing nothing more than decreasing your energy levels with negativity.  Wondering if you can ever come back from it.

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Don’t be fooled – Jealously is an urgent matter.

Jealously.The information I am about to share with you, should be titled the ugly truth. The story begins with the twisted mind of a jealous young person. The events that I speak of are shadowed with insecurity, self-doubt and reckless intention. However without such a lesson I could not be the person I am today. A kind and caring human being that values her own characteristics and those in others.

Years ago my ex-boyfriend began a relationship with an arch enemy of mine. While it sounds so silly to say that now, it is exactly how I felt all those years ago. It seemed she and I were attracted to the same guys. And for some unknown reason she drove me crazy. I felt compelled to ring and harass her whenever the opportunity arose. I rang her so often; her phone number was imprinted in my mind. The nastiness I penetrated towards her made me cross the line a number of times.

My friends starting hearing about what I had been up to and still I could do nothing but hate her with everything I had. Appearing like a lunatic was none too descriptive. This rage was blind, it was irrational and down-right mean. But most of all – it was a waste of time. Nobody gained anything from this situation. Although I continually felt tormented by a woman I barely knew.

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